Thursday, July 19, 2007

I AM NOT Weird!!

Ok I have to take a moment and vent. I usually keep my posts upbeat and informative but I have to get this off my chest.

I AM NOT Weird ( or whatever people seem to think) that I am not married, do not have kids and I will be 30 this year. I have had enough of other women ( usually) asking me when I am going to have kids or get married. This happens to me more often then I have ever imagined. Especially now that my best friend is having a baby. Whenever I mention S having a baby or used to talk about my friends getting married, I'd get the same reaction from most women "When are you getting married" or " when are you having kids" or my favorite "Don't you want a family?" Of course I do you idiots!! I just didn't know that all had to happen before 30. Now I understand the biological clock thing but I am assuming if science can clone a sheep or a 60 year old woman can give birth, I can still have a family after I turn 30. I almost feel like the people who ask me this think I am weird or something. When this first happened to me ( 3 years ago when S got married), I would say something sarcastic like "I don't see a reason to get married", just so the person asking me wouldn't ask me again. Actually one time I told my supervisor that I couldn't have kids after the 100th time she mentioned having kids to me. I know that is really mean and maybe unlucky to say something like that but I get offended when anyone ( outside my my dearest and closest friends) ask me that. Now when people ask me about kids and marriage, I get angry. I mean lets logically think about this, one it's the guys job to ask me ( no J, this isn't a hint, just a fact) to get married, two in my world, school, career, husband and house comes before starting a family. So forgive me world that those things haven't happened to me yet. It seems to bother other people more than it bothers me. I am happy with my life for now and I don't think its weird or unusual that I am not married or have kids. If you know me, those are events I look forward to but I don't stress about them at all. Well until the 5th woman in one day asks me why I don't have kids etc...

Sorry for the venting but I have had enough. Come to think about it, I would never ask anyone besides my closest friends anything personal like that so I don't understand why I get the questions.

On a much happier note, I saw S today for the first time since she announced she is prego and she looks beautiful!! She is 5 mths along and looks like a glowing healthy, pregnant woman. Tomorrow is her baby shower.. more to come on that :)


Anonymous said...

It didn't have to happen before 30? Holy crap, someone really tricked me! :) I had my third child when I was 27 and while I love being a mother and a wife, I really look forward to my 50s (my parents are in their mid-50s and go to the beach on the weekends in their sportscar). Enjoy what you have while you have it.

Anonymous said...

and by the way, I was so glad to leave my 20s behind. Turning 30 felt like entering a new world of credibility. My parents celebrate their birthdays in big, big ways each year.

femmme said...

I am 30 and single( obviously) and i detest when ppl ask me either of these questions, it does make me upset. On the kid question I usually reply; "I am a kid, how could I have one?" Which kind of rings true. I think you have a smart head about it and you're hallways there(33%?) ha!
I equate the asking of those questions to a stranger going up to a prego woman and rubbing her tummy.
on a side note: thank you for your kind comment. Comments I dot usually follow up upon, but I did want to say thanks!

Jess said...

I totally understand. Hey, at least they're not asking you if you already are pregnant, which happened to me several times during my marriage!